When you decide to go from two children to three you make a big family decision, the children now out number adults. This is something I often feel parents of one or two children don’t quite grasp. When we are out and about as a family we can’t watch them all at one time. This is when grandparents are helpful.
At the beginning of June we had a big family event happening, my baby sister was getting married. I was a bridesmaid and 39 weeks pregnant, Roran was the ring bearer, Willem was a page boy and Persephonie a flower girl. The day was going to be busy and it would require me and Rob working as a team to make sure that the children were on their best behaviour. Although I had all my family around, the day was about someone else and, for me, I didn’t want to take that away from her by making my children an issue. I also didn’t feel it was fair to ask my mum to watch the children as she was enjoying her daughters wedding and was there as mother of the bride, not nanny of my three.
First of all I don’t expect my children to act like adult they are children and I expect tears, I expect them to be excited and talk and definitely not sit down during the service. However I would have liked it if they were children in a polite manner, that maybe listen and took on board what we were asking. The big concern I had was:
- Roran would get over excited and not listen
- Willem would get overwhelmed and want to leave
- Persephonie would get too involved and forget about using the toilet
I had to leave earlier to go get my hair and make up done, I don’t normally look that good. Rob arrived around lunchtime and took charge of washing and dressing the children. He then brought the two youngest ones to me so that they could walk down the aisle and took Roran to wait with the groom. Willem and Persephonie had the job of walking down the aisle first, which was a concern as Willem doesn’t like too many people so I felt he may get to the door and turn around. Before going into the ceremony we had a little wait, in that time Persephonie slipped over and cut her hand, getting blood on me and her but no one noticed so was fine. When we walked in both Willem and Persephonie did brilliantly and walked down lovely. It helped that they spotted daddy waiting at the front. They sat down with him.
During the ceremony Persephonie enjoyed hanging off the chair and flashing her nappy, which we had put her in so she didn’t have an accident in her dress. Willem sat on Rob’s lap and fidgeted a lot, but both of them were well behaved and didn’t cause any distractions. Meanwhile Roran had been stood at the front with the groom and best man, looking as proud as punch. He was given the important role of looking after the rings and was very pleased with himself. In fact he did such a fab job that he got a sticker from the registrar and everyone thought he was fab.
Next came the wait for food, outside was an area set up for children and they all enjoyed some time playing whilst we could have a drink, orange juice for me. The meal was probably the hardest part as the children had no interest in the speeches or waiting for food. There was a lot of up and down and seat changing. To be honest this would have been the part we could have done with an extra set of hands. Once we had eaten they wanted to go back outside and play, which was fine as it was a nice evening.
Then came the disco, the part they had all been waiting for, Roran had been practicing his ‘dabbing’ for weeks. They had a little dance but then sat and watched the ‘first dance’, it was now around half 8 and pasted normal bedtime. Sitting down seemed to make the kids all crash and we decided that it was bedtime. Rob took the two little ones upstairs to our room and I stayed down with Roran. We then followed them up about an hour later.
The day had been very long, but we all enjoyed and the children definitely did us proud:
- Roran had listen really well and was so proud of himself, and everyone loved him
- Willem didn’t ask to leave and was so brave walking down the aisle first, I know it was a big ask of him
- Persephonie had several wet accidents when she went back in pants and did stress us out a bit, but these things happen
Photo Credit: Aaron Storry Photography